A quick brush-up on self-love

Embracing my quirky, witty selfie. We all have singular fortes, but tend to hide those far-out features in hopes that affirmation will work in our favor. 

Hey Dappers!

Not sure how this convo will hold, but I felt the urge to write about self-love today. So grab your favorite drink (mine’s a cold brew, of course) and let’s have a bro-chat, yeah?

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My confidence was a “pruning plateau” for years now. In other words a flat work-in-progress. No highlights, no major breakdowns. Slow improvements without visible benefits. It’s a long-hidden secret that paralyzed me till now.

In regards to my true, quaint self, I created a notion that my romantic, old-school vibes were far-out from everyone else’s millennial take. Consequently I secluded from society, thinking they won’t understand my “unique” quirky tendencies. I played the victim, kept my personality to myself, and ended up becoming my own worst enemy at the end. 

I always felt the need to tighten my fist, exasperate my assurance, and believe a lie that the universe is out to get me when in public (perhaps my unconventional take on masculinity?). It’s a cyclical habit that needs TO GO. #byfelicia

    I was sitting at  a local coffee shop last week when common sense finally kicked in… 

    True confidence is not about diluting my differences and stiffly (read: secretly) priding myself; rather, to know my worth in quiet and liberally flaunt the personality at large. As Harry Winston once said,

    “People will stare, make it worth their while.”
    -Harry Winston

    I mean, why settle for cookie-cutter boring, right? I’m finally learning to love myself 100%.

    Now, i’m very much relax, carefree, loving myself from every angle of the public eye. Learning to let my guard down, stop playing the victim, and choose my wonderland over the world’s dark palace of conformity and slight doubts.

    Someone’s shallow judgement speaks into their inability to understand humanity at its core: how we’re made to be ONE-OF-A-KIND despite similar interests and other commonalities.

    Sure i’ll come across fairly conservative upbringings who can’t comprehend diversity [well], but all I can do is not take it personally. Otherwise haters will hate, lol.

    I know my love for flower shops, twirling, and fanciful getaways won’t lessen my macho stance. Sometimes what you see outside might not equate to what’s on the inside, because quite frankly, we live in a superficial world wherein looks can literally fool ya. I lovvvvvve fashion, but personal style is only a fragment of the overall package. Does that make sense?

    All in all, i’ve finally succumbed to my individuality (in a non-cocky way.) All it takes is a firm “I WOKE UP LIKE THIS!,” a clear understanding of your likes and dislikes, discerning the lies, and the power of consistency. No rocket science here, just the willingness to believe the truth. That will speak for itself with a hefty haul of love radiating within every inch of the spirit and soul.

    I’ll leave you with a Bible verse that’s been the fundamental base and inspiration for this post:

    “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

    -Psalm 139:14



    I'm Ian, the writer behind CharlesTucket (a mix between Charleston & Nantucket, two of my favorite places). My hope is to inspire every man to live a wholesome & whimsical life, one quirk at a time.


    "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love." | 1 Corinthians 16:13-14


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