The Grays of Life

When complications begin to circulate the creative and conscious mind, remember this: success solely stems from surviving struggles.  It’s a process. Shortcuts won’t suffice. 

Hey Dappers,

Today’s post calls for a slight change of tone: less humorous, but a definite soul-puncher. 

Quite frequently, I tend to go soft and fluffy on the blog, babbling about weather, weekly wonders and whatnot. But life has its meditative moments too, no? Life isn’t always playful and peachy.

I wish to connect with you more personally. I also want to push my content beyond food and fashion.

Enough ranting, let’s get to it:)

For the longest time I internalized this preconceived notion, assuming life must either fall under a pit or peak. Social media’s inherent nature plays a massive part to the idea. 
Users show the bright and beautiful. To make situations worse, we establish a diluted picture of reality. If a person does not parallel to a flawless feed, then life is labeled “sucky.” If so, then life is “stellar.”
Society says life is either black or white. What about the grays of life?
When you mix black and white, you get a gorgeous shade of gray. Gray is a vital part of life because it’s the process. The bridge between life’s ups and downs. The bridge to success. Many times we magnify the problem, all while cemented on the dreamboat of victory. But we never fully grasp how to get from A (struggle) to B (success). 
Therefore, we become timid. We dramatize the problems and wonder why other people have it better off than we do. 
But what if I told you the problems are the keys to pump the process, propelling us to success?

I think one of the issues here is we look at problems as well-developed witchery; but in reality, they’re simply part of the process. OR MAYBE, it is the process.

(Hopefully you catch my drift…)

Over the past four years of college, I learned to expect and embrace the bumps along the way. I realized in order to reach success, swelling and scarring must take place. It’s part of life. After all, the cyclers at Tour de France didn’t pedal their bikes to victory without sweating and a whole lot of suffering along the way.

Acknowledging the problems can do so much good in our daily living. Rather than running away, we dissect the dilemma from a distance, and work our way to right the wrongs. This, in all its glory, is THE process. Life is (should be) mainly made up of this. As the day goes, we’re constantly progressing.

Ever wondered why most successful people have the toughest stories? Yeah, it’s all in the process.

                “Process Leads to Success”

It’s all in the daily details. The choices we make when no one’s watching. The constant conditioning of the soul no matter what sort of struggles rock our boat. The state of mind, intentionality, and motives.

Success does not happen accidentaly.

The beauty of the process is that they help us acclimate to the hardships of life. Once we learn to ride the struggles with eagerness to overcome, rather than finding ways to “beat it,” nothing can stop us from achieving any dream! “Grab ’em by the horns” as they say.

Remember, it’s what we do in the interim that counts. The sweat and tears will pay off in the long run. With patience, my friends.



I'm Ian, the writer behind CharlesTucket (a mix between Charleston & Nantucket, two of my favorite places). My hope is to inspire every man to live a wholesome & whimsical life, one quirk at a time.


"Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love." | 1 Corinthians 16:13-14


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