Baby Steps

As Peter Nivio Zarlenga once said,”To begin, begin.”

 Starting something can be difficult. That’s life. It’s hard to substitute the not-so-beneficial habits to highly functioning ones. While the flesh screams “nah i’m good,” I want to help fight the annoying little voices inside your head.

We hate change because 1) the beginning stages suck -which is true, and 2) change is overwhelming. It’s important to see the bigger picture, to imagine yourself past the finish line with all the perks and glory of swapping a segment of life’s stupidity. The more races you run, the easier beginning something gets. Whether it’s reducing acne, a social media detox or a daily schedule revamp, you have to start somewhere.

…But balance is key. Though it’s critical to see the big picture, things will get overwhelming down the road.

Understand it takes baby steps to establish a highly effective change. People who jump and leap through the journey (and other journeys) will lose momentum similar to the hare from a well-known folk tale. Be the tortoise: unashamed and passionate, who took small steps to achieve his goal. Make the steps slow enough. To the point where you feel comfortable with the pace of your journey.

We need perseverance and motivation to get the wheels turning. These characteristics are attained only by successful people. So get up (after this post!), start doing and less talking. Unleash the successful you! Prove failure wrong!

Do you really want to change? Do you really want to achieve a certain dream? What drives you?

Think of something economical, your guilty pleasure. For me it’s frozen yogurt. When you finish a goal, treat yourself to that.

Why economical? because it’s all about discipline. Two things to acquire: 1) I don’t eat frozen yogurt a lot, but love them to death. Treating myself to a Froyo cup is discipline because even though I daydream about it everyday, I justify eating it sporadically. 2) It’s a humbling experience.

Not every victory should be awarded so lavishly. It’s impractical. It shifts the focus on the prize, not the journey. I say treat yourself to something small and affordable. Prove that through arduous moments, you managed to keep the heart content with small treats as a way of saying “well done.”

At the end of each change, it’s easy to become the needy, whiny individual who complains about everything -and therefore demands a massive reward. Ri-di-cu-lous. Award yourself something big here and there, but not periodically. Only when it’s life changing it hurts to frown.

Stay motivated and never let the beginning stages take its toll on you. Remember to always dream about the big picture, take baby steps, and always keep that fire burning all in one.



I'm Ian, the writer behind CharlesTucket (a mix between Charleston & Nantucket, two of my favorite places). My hope is to inspire every man to live a wholesome & whimsical life, one quirk at a time.


"Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love." | 1 Corinthians 16:13-14


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